At the beginning of the year my life took a drastic turn. In January, 4 days after the new year my son Dylan started having night seizures. It was unexpected (as most of these thing are). It was traumatic (as you go through a roller-coaster rides of emotions). And it was painful (because when it happens you feel completely helpless). My son, thank God had no clue he was experiencing this, most times he woke up afterwards wanting to use the bathroom or asking "Mom why are you crying?" He was and still is a trooper. He accepted the medication we forced on him. He quietly did all the tests we had to run, and he did not object when we spent most of his initial Saturdays in a doctor's office. I could not ask for a more understanding child.
- Avoid excessive criticism, humiliating comments, or mocking your child. I have to specifically try not doing the last because when he usually goes on his rampage I find myself mocking him to hear how he is really sounding. I have not done this in a while, but when he really acts out terribly I find myself biting my tongue and taking deep breaths.
- Ignore your parental agenda. Again this is hard to do especially if you are someone who likes to keep everything planned and organized. It also made me realize I could not control everything and I have to cater for this. He sometimes has no control over when it is going to happen and I cannot blame him and expect him to change immediately.
- Be patient with the process. This is my biggest challenge... having patience. I need to be patient with this entire ordeal. I have to be patient with Dylan and I have to be patient with myself. It is hard to teach an old dog new tricks, so sometimes I do let my emotions get the better of me.